Parents Disrespect Daughter By Inviting Hated Aunt to Family Gathering After Signing a Contract Saying They Wouldn’t, She Goes No Contact

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 21, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

You would think that each year, each decade on this planet, humanity would become more and more progressive, turning towards being more open, more cohesive, instead of being more disjointed, more separate. But alas, through certain progressions, we're met with an equal force of regressed ways of thinking and behaving. Going no contact is extreme, and I'm not even sure what someone expects out of it. Family can be tough, but they're still your family. 

In this Reddit thread, the original poster (OP) is a woman who decides to go no contact with her parents after an incident at a family event. Prior to the incident, the OP made her parents sign a contract saying they wouldn't invite OP's aunt, whom she hates. When she comes to the event, who does she see immediately? But you'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH •4 days ago Sweet Turnover8782 AITA For taking my kids back home with me, from my parents house after they violated; the one simple rule I gave them.
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    I'm writing this on a throwaway account for personal reason. In March of 2022 my parents reached out to me saying that they wanted to meet my daughters, Angela and Julianne (fake names) both 9, IVF twins.
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    I agreed to it, on the condition that I didn't want them to meet my aunt's family. Because growing up with them, they were incredibly abusive and neglectful to me when I had to live them. We're talking about some really abusive things, physical and emotional. I'll give you one example, in 1997 my aunt took
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    my brother's asthma inhaler and wouldn't give it back to him because he wouldn't share his cookies with her daughter. We're talking about a woman who at the time was in her mid-late 20s, doing this to a 7 year old boy.
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    I have my lawyer write up a contract, it wasn't legally binding it was entirely symbolic. But it made the terms clear, I'll fly with them over from Seattle to Albuquerque during Spring break and Summer break. As long as these people are not introduced to them or anywhere near the property under any circumstance.
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    I reserve the right to never bring kids back here if you violate this one rule. She signed it and I plan the trip.
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    I tell my daughters, who these people are. Why I don't like them, and to tell me if they meet them. I treat my kids like they can understand things, if they have questions, I try and explain to them to the best of my abilities.
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    Well, we make the flight down there and head to their home. We're there for about an 2 hours when I here the doorbell go off. Well guess who it is? My aunts family and they're standing around laughing pretending like | don't like them and we've just always gotten along. I look at my mom and say
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    Me: "Why did you invite them?" Mom: "Well they're family?" Me: "They're your family. Angela and Julianne, we're going home." The girls hadn't unpacked their things yet so they go and get them, I grab my belongings and start making my way out.
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    With my mom, break down and begging me not to go. Trying to guilt trip me, "Really you actually meant it?" "I can't believe you." Meanwhile my aunt and her family default start making judgmental comments saying that I'm ungrateful, blah, blah if you've dealt with abusive people, you know they're not particularly
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    original and always default to victimization.
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    Since then I haven't responded to their messages and phone calls, I blocked them and instructed my kids to block them anywhere they could to which they have been compliant, not before asking me for the latest NewJeans merch of course.
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    My brother came by of 2 weeks ago, and he spoke to me very calmly and was trying to get me budge. I told. "I gave them one rule and they signed on it. They violated it within the first two hours of us being there. It wasn't just that, it's that they showed me; they don't respect me. That they cared more
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    about my aunt's family, then they did my rules, which kind of shows how much they care for my kids if they were completely willing to violate it not even 2 hours upon me arriving." I don't know what it is, my mom seems to have forgiven or not cared enough about what we endured with those people to
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    where she will just assume that I'm bluffing when I make the rules clear to her.
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    F... 4d ago Edited 4d ago • NTA I can't believe your mom is okay with the person who kept her asthmatic child's inhaler hostage over some cookies!
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    You made your boundary (which was reasonable) and kept it. Your job as a parent is to keep people like that away from your kids.
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    Honest Weird_9... 4d ago NTA you had one rule. One. If they can respect that boundarie they can't see the kids
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    ProfessionalMai... • 4d ago. NTA. It's not even in question. I'd absolutely go low/no contact with them if you can, because she's obviously going to put them first. Never risk your kids safety.
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    cthulularoo 4d ago • Your brother was the one she took the inhaler from and he's going to bat for them? jesus, he's in it deep, too, huh? ΝΤΑ
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